One of our online "adoption community friends" just notified everyone that their birthparents changed their minds and want to parent. The adoptive family has had the baby for 2 weeks. I am so sad, and frustrated, and angry for them! WHY?! I know God does not give us more than we can handle, He's clearly stated that. However, why does it seem that all the stress and heartbreak happen over and over and over for those who are adopting? I know it's all part of the process, but bear in mind that there has already been stress and heartbreak over infertility problems for all of us adopting folks too! It just seems that the hurt keeps piling on. I'm so sad for them.
Another set of our adoption community friends is waiting for their little one to be born - they seem quite close to their birthmother. I am fervently hoping that everything goes smoothly. I realize that their gain will be someone else's deep loss. However, I have said over and over again that the responsible and loving birthparents are the ones who seriously consider an adoption plan in the first place. They are the ones who put their wants last - and the child's interests first. Hooray for birthmothers!
What a swirl of emotions I'm feeling. I'm so ready for our baby, but if we have to go through a failed placement I may just call it quits. I really don't know how much more of this process I can handle. I think that my emotions are raw in light of our friend's heartbreak. I also think I want to go back to bed - it's safe and warm there.
Hi Adrienne, Thanks for visiting my blog today. We don't have much news to share about our bmom. She has not delivered yet..she has not changed her mind yet...but as you already know it is subject to change. I am not feeling terribly optimistic with our situation right now, which I guess is why I haven't mentioned it...
ReplyDeleteI have added your blog to my roll and can't wait to see how things work out for you guys. I can tell you this much: If you go through a failed placement...do not call it quits. I promise you, you will be strong enough to deal with whatever happens...and you will be glad you stuck it out. It will be ok! I know! I've been there (twice.)
Our bmom is due Dec 29th. It will all be over pretty soon... one way or another. :)
Hi! I just found your page the other day. I'm adding you to my blogroll and will be following your journey.
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to keep going sometimes... Sometimes the process feels like a circus. But, it's going to be so worth it in the end. Keep your chin up! :) Good luck!
Thanks guys! Hope everything works out for your impending arrival Stephanie!
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